As a mother, a wife, a friend, a daughter and most importantly a human being, I have found that having a very very large bag of tools to call upon as I confront the challenges of life, is essential. My bag contains a wide variety of things including:
Friends – I cannot emphasize enough the importance of having a couple of trusted go-to-peeps to get advice from, rant or vent to, or just to share the good stuff with. I may not always take on their advice but I always love and appreciate the time they take out of their own crazy, manic, child-filled lives to listen to me about mine.
Wine – This one has been a saviour at more than one point in my life. I don’t think I drank very much before I had kids but there have been times where that glass of wine of an evening is the only thing that has gotten me through the day. The only thing!
But the thing that has made the mosts difference is my meditation practice. I have been learning The Bright Path’s Ishayas’ Ascension for over 5 years now and it has made the most difference to my ability to speak freely with my kids and to be there for them without trying to dominate or control them. It has also allowed me to give up my fear of something bad happening to them. As a mum, I think this is one of the toughest things to do. My kids are everything to me and the thought of them being injured or dying literally gave me nightmares and panic attacks. Meditation has allowed me to put that fear to one side and trust that everything will be OK, even if it isn’t. I know that sounds a bit strange but when their lives are out of your control anyway, what else can you do but surrender and allow whatever the universe has in store for them, to unfold as it is meant to.
Before I learned to meditate I had some pretty strange ideas about what meditation was. I thought that it would mean sitting crossed legged on the floor for hours on end (or perhaps on a mountain top or in a dark cave). I thought that my teachers would be dressed in flowing robes with long hair and beards and would chant, never talk and of course would be incredibly serious.
Thankfully Ascension is NOT at all like that. I think that is why it stuck for me. My teachers looked just like me and you (except younger than me), the weekend course when I first learned was filled with laughter. Yep, rolling around the floor at times laughter. It was light-hearted but boy did the messages land for me. It was like this is what I had been looking for my whole life. It felt like I was finally home. Over the past 5 years I have let go of my serious significant side, I am not quite as big a control freak as my teachers once knew me to be, I laugh a lot (just ask my kids), I am calmer, the drama has mostly gone and I like who I am now.
Ascension is no longer just a practice that I undertake every day to keep a level of sanity in my life, it is now a part of my life. I spent a month in Spain last year starting my Mastery Course (which goes for 6 months total) and will spend some more time there over the coming 2 years once the kids have left home, completing my course and hopefully becoming a teacher. You can find out more about it here or drop me a line and I’m happy to share more.
Being able to pass on to others what has helped me with my life is important to me – whether it be communication tools, meditation, great books and websites or other tips. If I can help make it just that teeny weeny bit easier for you and help you understand what an incredible person you already are, then my life will be rich and joyful. And if I can’t help, then at least I can recommend some great bottles of wine that can do the trick.
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Check in here regularly as I will continue to add to this list of links as I come across amazing women (and men) who have great stuff to share, great courses, books or just funny stories to give you a giggle when you need it most.