I love it when you find a song that speaks directly to you. I remember the first time I heard Hilary Duff’s song ‘I am’ – I swear the lyrics were written for me. It sums up how I feel most days… I am sure that many of you probably feel the same (if not, then I am as strange as I thought I was):
I’m an angel, I’m a devil I am sometimes in between I’m as bad as it can get And good as it can be Sometimes I’m a million colours Sometimes I’m black and white I am all extremes Try to figure me out you never can There’s so many things I amI am special I am beautiful I am wonderful and powerful Unstoppable Sometimes I’m miserable Sometimes I’m pitiful But that’s so typical of all the things I am I’m someone filled with self-belief I am special |
I’m a million contradictions Sometimes I make no sense Sometimes I’m perfect Sometimes I’m a mess Sometimes I’m not sure who I am But,I am special I am beautiful I am wonderful and powerful Unstoppable Sometimes I’m miserable Sometimes I’m pitiful But that’s so typical of all the things I am I am special Sometimes I’m miserable
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A perfectly unstoppable mess – that’s who I am. All of these emotions in a single day – no wonder I am so exhausted. Who am I kidding, sometimes I feel all of these emotions in a single hour.
I do however want to teach my daughter that this is normal, that it is OK that she is all of these things. I don’t want her to feel inadequate, useless, weird (although a little weird is a great thing – I think!). I think that boys already get this, which is why I don’t feel I need to teach it to my son. I don’t think they think about these things anywhere near as much as we girls do, if in fact at all!
I am clear that it is my need to be perfect, to have it all together that drives me. I always look at other women (in particular) and think how amazing they are. See – I think toooooooo much don’t I. Even my 12 year old daughter has told me to STOP thinking. She suggested that if that was not possible then I should think about a white or black wall with nothing on it because that is pretty close to nothing. I have tried it but it is incredibly how quickly things fly onto that blank wall – thoughts, opinions, judgements, fear – you name it, they all appear.
So all there is to do now is clean off the wall and start again – blank, nothing – even 5 minutes of nothing would be better than none.